“If at first you don’t succeed
Dust yourself off and try again
You can dust it off and try again”
I am back y’all! It’s been soooo long! I am SUPER EXCITED to be back blogging and here with all of you! As many of you know, I took my Professional Engineering exam again last week after failing it last October. I am not going to lie…that b was HARD AF. There was a point during the exam that I questioned whether I should just guess on the whole test and just leave in the middle of it.
Nobody likes to fail. And, after having shared my study journey last year with all of you, I was SO embarrassed when I received the results and saw FAIL written in big red letters. Failing at anything sucks and sometimes it’s a really hard thing to get over.
I am a perfectionist and I REALLY don’t like failing. I try my hardest to be good at everything I do. I give 110% to every job, blog post, volunteer position, etc. because I always want to be THE best at what I do.
Failing the exam really brought me down and I was pretty down in the dumps for a couple of months. I started binge eating like crazy and stopped working out. I even started pushing away friends and turning down opportunities to hang out with them because I felt like they were only offering out of pity.
The worst part was that I was JEALOUS and even mad at all my friends that did pass. I looked on their social media profiles with such envy anytime any of them would post something about passing or receiving their license and stamp. I try to never be jealous and try not to envy others for things they have accomplished that I have yet to accomplish, but this time it was hard and I gave in. I was upset with them when my failure had nothing to do with them.
So, how did I get over it? Time. Lots of time. And I threw myself into studying harder than before to ensure that I could pass the exam the second time around. And, honestly, I don’t know if I passed or not. I feel like it’s possible that I did and I pray that I did. But, if I happened to fail again, I know it’s not the end of the world. I will just dust myself off and try again.
Through failing I learned so much about myself and about my family and friends. No matter what happens in my life…good or bad…bad or good…I can’t deny the AMAZING support system I have been blessed with.
How-To Get Over A Failure
- Feel what you need to feel.
- Remember: you’re not a failure just because you had a setback.
- Stop dwelling on it.
- Release the need for approval of others.
- Find inspiration and support from your world.
- Dust yourself off and try again.
What or who motivates you to get over the humps in life?
Tell me about a time that you went through something similar and how you got over it.
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